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Time to potty!!!

13 Apr

My husband (eek, it still feels funny to call him that) and I have been worried, not gonna lie about it. Our son starts pre-K in about four months and he hasn’t so much as given the potty the time of day.

We bought him a “Cars” potty (which makes this annoying engine revving sound when he flushes it), we tried pull-ups (a.k.a. the more expensive diaper you can take off easily), we bought pull-ups that get cold when they get wet (a.k.a. the even more expensive diaper you can take off even more easily), we tried rewarding (candy, cars, stickers, you name it), we tried over-excessive pride (I lost count of the number of times I jumped around like a meth-head cheerleader on crack), we tried just having him run around naked from the waist down (I’ve seen dogs that pee in the house less than my son), we tried everything.

If you read anything about potty training, it’ll say that one of the signs of readiness is that they start being uncomfortable when their diaper is wet or messy. They actually start to dislike the feeling instead of just being indifferent about it. Well, our son has given indifference a whole new meaning over the past few months. He’s been more indifferent about that potty than the cast of Jersey Shore has been about etiquette and restraint.

Still not potty trained.

Now, I don’t know what has changed over the past couple of days… maybe it was taking his cars away from him with the promise that he will get one back for every time he does something in the potty. Maybe it was buying another potty to go at his grandmother’s house. One thing I know that helped was his grandmother (my mother-in-law) taking the time to constantly have him sit on his shiny new potty and do his business. Over the past three days, he has had ONE accident and I couldn’t be more proud.

It’s amazing how your life changes when you have kids. Just six years ago, I didn’t have a care in the world and was going out like every night and dancing like it was always party time. Now, I’m home with two beautiful kids and staying in every night, dancing because it’s potty time.

And my son is so proud of himself. This morning, my mother-in-law called me and put him on the phone because he just had to tell me, “I. Pooped. In. My. Brand. New. Potty!” I’m so glad that he’s catching on and proud of himself for his “accomplishments” so far. Now I only hope that I can keep up the awesome work that my mother-in-law has started!!

So, where was I?

29 Dec

Holy shit. I don’t even want to think about how long it’s been since I’ve posted here. Was it Thanksgiving? Jesus… I’ve gotta come visit more often. *taps mic*

So, still working for the mortgage company via the staffing agency. It’s going great. They want to extend my contract one more month then, who knows. I’ve kinda gotten “the itch”. You ever put your two weeks notice in and then that last two weeks is the worst two weeks at the job? It’s kind of like that. I don’t know if they’re going to hire me on permanently or just go one more month and then be done with me and, although I know I need to put forth my best effort 100% of the time (like I always do), I’m almost thinking that if they can’t see what a great employee I am by now it seems like being a full on employee would kinda suck. I don’t know… I’m not going to over analyze it. I’m just going to roll with the punches.

Maybe that’ll be my New Year’s Resolution… roll with the punches. Be more adaptable, more flexible. Oh, that and post more. Definitely post more.

My prior “wedding woes” have been taken care of. We got the money issues straightened out for the time being. And, within the next week or so, everything will be paid for and all we’ll have to do is wait for March!! I got the absolute best shoes EVAR!!! SEE!!! I cannot wait until my wedding day. It is going to be so fun to have so many of the people I love the most under one roof just eating, drinking, and celebrating me and my man!

The kids are doing good. Taylor is loving her holiday break and Daniel Jr. has started pronouncing the “K” and hard “G” sounds… SQUEE!!

Life is good. Here’s to making it better in 2012!

Moms need to show a little more love to one another….

20 Oct

Moms need to show a little more love to one another…..

 

Please read the above. I could not agree more that moms need to do more building each other up and stop tearing each other down. Every person (and every child) is different and there is no reason to degrade a mother for doing everything she can for her children. Just because another woman made a different decision for her children than you made for yours does not make either of your decisions wrong… it makes them different.

The day I became a mommy

5 Oct

I know there are women out there that became a mom the day they found out they were pregnant, others the day they gave birth and there are even some that have felt like mothers their whole lives. I am none of those.

To be honest, I spent most of the time after my daughter was born terrified of her. I mean, here was this little life form that was completely dependent on me and I had no idea what to do. The first diaper I changed ever was her first diaper change. The first time I ever fed a baby a bottle was immediately after she was born and the nurse placed her in my arms. Shit, the first time I ever held a baby was the first time my daughter was placed in my arms.

So, that mommy feeling must have crept in at some point soon after, right?

Nope.

When my daughter was three months old, we found out that I was pregnant again. Six month later we welcomed our son, Daniel Jr. into the world. So, having two kids must have made me have that mommy feeling for sure.

Uh-uh.

For me, feeling like a mommy didn’t start until earlier this year. My son had started saying a few words when he was about 18 months (mama, dada, wawa, etc…) but, for some reason, he regressed quickly and went back to pointing and, I wouldn’t call it grunting but, it was definitely a “mmm” sound. I was getting worried and found an organization called “Babies Can’t Wait” that helps children under the age of three with different kinds of developmental setbacks. I sent in all the necessary paperwork and hoped I would hear from them soon. In December of 2010, they finally got around to us and sent out two very nice ladies to come fill out some additional paperwork and meet my son. Renee sat with me as we filled out the paperwork while Karen (the speech therapist) sat with my son and played with him. All Karen really did that day was blow some bubbles (while saying “bubbles”) and when they would pop, she would say “pop!” Nothing special… or so I thought. She wouldn’t blow more right away. She’d say bubbles a few times so he could see how her mouth was moving and hen she’d blow the bubbles, taking a little longer every time to finally do it.

It still gives me the chills to think about it…. sitting there with this lady he had just met he got frustrated with having to wait for the bubbles so, he looked at her and said “bubbles!!!” Such a simple word and such an exhilarating moment. My baby spoke. And I cried. I finally felt like a mommy.

After the ladies left things just kept getting better. He went back to saying the words he had saying before and, as we taught him some words in sign language (at Ms. Karen’s suggestion), he began to open up even more. I don’t know what exactly went on that day; I mean, I didn’t see anyone sprinkle magic dust over his head but that is ow dramatic the change was. Now, less than a year later, his progression is amazing. Sure, there are plenty of times where his words are kinda mumble-y and he pronounces go as “dough” and jump as “gump” but I’ll take it because he also says “I love you daddy” and “You da best mommy ever!”

Children at a wedding

20 Sep

No one can ever truly describe just how much goes into planning a wedding. Holy mother of everything holy… there is a lot to consider but, more on that later. Since I am planning my wedding and I also have two friends that are planning theirs (one is getting married in 11 days and one is gettingĀ marriedĀ this time next year) I have been in a lot of wedding talks lately. The subject that has come up the most is the subject of having kids at your wedding.

Now, I may be biased since I already have two children of my own, and I will be having kids at my wedding, and let me preface all of this by saying that I understand WHY someone would not want kids at their wedding. However, if I were invited to a “no kids” wedding, it would leave me feeling slightly insulted. Here’s why… before I had kids, I totally viewed them as screaming, snotty, loud little people (not to say there aren’t adults that are the same way) and I definitely wouldn’t wanna stand in front of a room full of them on my special day. Now that I have kids, I realize that I was taking my image of some people’s kids and applying that image to all people’s kids.

My children are VERY well behaved. While they may get crazy at home they know how to act when we are in public and they have never been one of those kids that make a scene. If one of my friends were to have a “no kids” wedding, it would feel like they were making the same assumption that I had once made.

But, there is another layer to all of this. Money. Daniel and I are paying for everything out of our own pockets and most places charge half price for kids under twelve regardless of if that kid is 1 or 11; and half price adds up fast, especially if your family has a lot of little ones, like mine.

I just think that this is one of those issues that needs to be handled with a lot of tact. If I were going with a “no kids” policy at my wedding, I wouldn’t just leave it at one line on the invitation or RSVP card. Personally, I’d make a point to call everyone that I was inviting that has kids and take the time to explain why I made that decision. It goes without saying that, if you’re inviting someone to your wedding, they are special to you in some way and great care needs to be taken when explaining why you don’t want to share your special day with their whole family.

Am I making sense? What do you think?