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Here’s to me….

5 Apr

It’s official! The Simon and Garfunkel song is now about me because I am the world’s newest Mrs. Robinson!

To say that my wedding day went off without a hitch would be an understatement. It was perfect. It was beyond perfect. It was more than I expected and better than I could have ever imagined.

Saturday began with an everything bagel. Well, technically it was a plain bagel with everything “seeds” sprinkled all over the cream cheese, but it was still good! As is usually the case on a wedding day (from what I’ve heard) I barely got half the bagel in me before it was time to get going and get ready. First stop was the nail salon for manis and pedis with two of my favorite women in the world… my wifey (Kat) and my taterbug. Taylor sat so still and was such a big girl getting her nails done. Luckily I didn’t have any make-up on because Kat showed me the status update Daniel had posted talking about he was winning the “life lottery” that day. See why I married him?

After nails, it was time to get my hair done. Easy and simple with lots of curls and lightly pinned back from my face. From there, it was on to make-up with Dawn at MAC so I had to start keeping the tears at bay.

Once all my preparations were done, I had just enough time to go back to get everything loaded up and get to the venue on time. And then, the rockstar treatment began!

My photographer (and wonderful friend) Larry showed up and began setting up at the same time that the venue’s amazing staff started getting me whatever I needed.

But, first things first. The maid-of-honor needed to be given her present (a beautifully delicate bracelet of interlocking hearts crusted on alternating sides with diamonds) for being such an amazing woman. If you ever get the chance to meet my wifey, consider yourself lucky. She is one of the most amazing, intelligent, funny, gennuine, honest, big-hearted people on this planet and I am lucky to call her a friend. I think she liked it, at least that’s what the smile on her face and the tears in her eyes told me. 🙂

I’m gonna fast forward now to the reception. Also simple. And very quick. The minister read an excerpt from Union that I had found and I could not take my eyes off of my almost husband. To say that he looked good would be an insult. He was probably glowing as much as I was at the thought of what we were finally doing. Kissing him for the first time as my husband was one of the happiest moments of my life. If I am ever given the chance to go back to one moment in time, it will be that moment over, and over, and over.

The reception was, without a doubt, the most fun I have had in a while. Good food, great music, and the most amazing people in the world… all wrapped together to celebrate my husband and I.

I could do it all over again. I’m still living in the glow from that day. Even though he and I have been together a little over 5 and a half years and we have two kids, I feel like a newlywed. He’s my husband now, and I don’t think I could ask for anything more.

Happiness.

20 Mar

In this big world of ours, there are so many ways to define happiness. The rich man will define happiness as having a diversified portfolio and finally finishing the big remodel on his house in the Hamptons. The father or mother in India may define happiness as having a big, healthy family and enough love to last them a lifetime. Our definitions of happiness even change over the course of our lives. I remember a time where happiness was when I finally got to start wearing heels to tap class.

I am happy. I can say that truthfully and without pause. I have many reasons to be happy. I have the love of a man that loves me in a way that I never thought I would get to be loved. I have two beautiful children that are smart, healthy, and funny. I have the most amazingly unique family that is always good for a laugh or comfort when I need it. I have the smartest, funniest, most amazing friends (online and off) that anyone could ask for and the bestest most bestest best friend in the history of friends.

So what makes me happy right now?

On top of everything I’ve already mentioned, I get to stand up in front of the people I love the most in this world and *officially* make a lifelong commitment to a man I am already tied to forever. We get to stand in front of our family friends and make the easiest promise in the world; to love each other like we already do and to continue to do it for as long as weboth shall live. Sure we’ve had our ups and downs and our own problems to combat. But we’ve gone through it together. Never once, in five and a half years, have I ever felt like my man… my fiance… my husband would not be there for me. To promise to love him for the rest of my life will be one of the easiest things I ever do in my life.

Sure, there are those that say that marriage isn’t easy… that you “have to work at it”. And I get that. I get that times can be hard and make you stress and lash out at the person closest to you. We’ve already been through some of that and made it out holding hands.

Right now, in this moment, I am happy that I have a companion on the long road of life that lies before me. And I have him forever.

So, where was I?

29 Dec

Holy shit. I don’t even want to think about how long it’s been since I’ve posted here. Was it Thanksgiving? Jesus… I’ve gotta come visit more often. *taps mic*

So, still working for the mortgage company via the staffing agency. It’s going great. They want to extend my contract one more month then, who knows. I’ve kinda gotten “the itch”. You ever put your two weeks notice in and then that last two weeks is the worst two weeks at the job? It’s kind of like that. I don’t know if they’re going to hire me on permanently or just go one more month and then be done with me and, although I know I need to put forth my best effort 100% of the time (like I always do), I’m almost thinking that if they can’t see what a great employee I am by now it seems like being a full on employee would kinda suck. I don’t know… I’m not going to over analyze it. I’m just going to roll with the punches.

Maybe that’ll be my New Year’s Resolution… roll with the punches. Be more adaptable, more flexible. Oh, that and post more. Definitely post more.

My prior “wedding woes” have been taken care of. We got the money issues straightened out for the time being. And, within the next week or so, everything will be paid for and all we’ll have to do is wait for March!! I got the absolute best shoes EVAR!!! SEE!!! I cannot wait until my wedding day. It is going to be so fun to have so many of the people I love the most under one roof just eating, drinking, and celebrating me and my man!

The kids are doing good. Taylor is loving her holiday break and Daniel Jr. has started pronouncing the “K” and hard “G” sounds… SQUEE!!

Life is good. Here’s to making it better in 2012!

28 days later…

29 Nov

So, you remember when I said that things were about to get crazy? Apparently I wasn’t joking! I can’t believe this is my first post for the month of November!!

Where have I been?

Oh yeah, working!! That’s right!

So, I started a temporary position with a company that specializes in reverse mortgages. To start the position is only two months long but, I hope that they’re going to hire me on permanently because this seems like a great company that really cares about their people. It’s been a big adjustment from being a stay at home mom but I think I’m finally getting the hang of it.

The commute and taking care of my beautiful kids hasn’t left much time for anything else. As of Halloween, I wanted to take part in NaNoWriMo but, as it stands now I’ll be lucky to make it to the 10,000 word mark for the month. Which, I guess, isn’t so bad considering I don’t even consider myself a “writer” and it was my first go at it. I guess whatever I do end up getting down will just be the base of something I can pick at and work on and maybe I’ll end up with a story that’s worth reading, maybe not but, I’ll have done it and that’s all that matters.

In GREAT news, we finally completed the deposit on the venue for our wedding!!! I cannot begin to tell you how tough a time we have had with the financial aspect of this wedding. Also, I found everything to make our invitations myself (well, with the help of a wonderful friend of mine) and I’m going to be able to make everything (invites, rsvp cards, thank you notes, programs) for under $100! Considering some websites wanted well over $250 for the invites alone, I’d say we’re doing pretty good on this one.

Oh… and this Friday is my birthday!! Dinner with my best friend and wonderful fiance and kids and family is going to be so much fun. Not to mention I’m going to JoAnn’s etc to check out fabric for my sash for the wedding.

So, things are still pretty hectic around here but it’s getting to be the norm now and I’m enjoying getting things done.

Oh, ps… I think our son and my fiance may have started a tradition for the Saturday after Thanksgiving. The two of them (the men of the family) put up Christmas lights around the outside of the house while us women (our daughter and I) went to visit with some friends.

So yeah, life is good! 🙂

Moms need to show a little more love to one another….

20 Oct

Moms need to show a little more love to one another…..

 

Please read the above. I could not agree more that moms need to do more building each other up and stop tearing each other down. Every person (and every child) is different and there is no reason to degrade a mother for doing everything she can for her children. Just because another woman made a different decision for her children than you made for yours does not make either of your decisions wrong… it makes them different.

The day I became a mommy

5 Oct

I know there are women out there that became a mom the day they found out they were pregnant, others the day they gave birth and there are even some that have felt like mothers their whole lives. I am none of those.

To be honest, I spent most of the time after my daughter was born terrified of her. I mean, here was this little life form that was completely dependent on me and I had no idea what to do. The first diaper I changed ever was her first diaper change. The first time I ever fed a baby a bottle was immediately after she was born and the nurse placed her in my arms. Shit, the first time I ever held a baby was the first time my daughter was placed in my arms.

So, that mommy feeling must have crept in at some point soon after, right?

Nope.

When my daughter was three months old, we found out that I was pregnant again. Six month later we welcomed our son, Daniel Jr. into the world. So, having two kids must have made me have that mommy feeling for sure.

Uh-uh.

For me, feeling like a mommy didn’t start until earlier this year. My son had started saying a few words when he was about 18 months (mama, dada, wawa, etc…) but, for some reason, he regressed quickly and went back to pointing and, I wouldn’t call it grunting but, it was definitely a “mmm” sound. I was getting worried and found an organization called “Babies Can’t Wait” that helps children under the age of three with different kinds of developmental setbacks. I sent in all the necessary paperwork and hoped I would hear from them soon. In December of 2010, they finally got around to us and sent out two very nice ladies to come fill out some additional paperwork and meet my son. Renee sat with me as we filled out the paperwork while Karen (the speech therapist) sat with my son and played with him. All Karen really did that day was blow some bubbles (while saying “bubbles”) and when they would pop, she would say “pop!” Nothing special… or so I thought. She wouldn’t blow more right away. She’d say bubbles a few times so he could see how her mouth was moving and hen she’d blow the bubbles, taking a little longer every time to finally do it.

It still gives me the chills to think about it…. sitting there with this lady he had just met he got frustrated with having to wait for the bubbles so, he looked at her and said “bubbles!!!” Such a simple word and such an exhilarating moment. My baby spoke. And I cried. I finally felt like a mommy.

After the ladies left things just kept getting better. He went back to saying the words he had saying before and, as we taught him some words in sign language (at Ms. Karen’s suggestion), he began to open up even more. I don’t know what exactly went on that day; I mean, I didn’t see anyone sprinkle magic dust over his head but that is ow dramatic the change was. Now, less than a year later, his progression is amazing. Sure, there are plenty of times where his words are kinda mumble-y and he pronounces go as “dough” and jump as “gump” but I’ll take it because he also says “I love you daddy” and “You da best mommy ever!”

“That” time.

27 Sep

This Saturday, we’ll all be going to the wedding of my friend’s Holly and Chris (who is more like a little brother to me than a friend). Holly has been so busy; she is very frugal and has made a lot of the preparations for her wedding herself. I am amazed at everything that she has done and I wish I had it in me to do the same for my wedding. When we get together, we talk about weddings (of course) and we talk about babies (the two of them have a beautiful one-year old boy, Jett) and we talk about wine and everything else under the son.

In case, you’re new, I’m also planning my own wedding. I’m not going DIY like Holly did but there is still a good bit to plan when you don’t do everything yourself.

My brother got engaged this past July and they are planning their wedding for next year.

Right now, I know of four girls from my past who are expecting and there are two who just had their first child.

I have reached “that” time in my life. It has started to dawn on me (at thirty-years old) that I have grown up. Almost everyone I know is getting married or expecting their first child, or having their first child, or just in various stages of doing the big things that grown-ups do. And it makes me so happy for everyone and so hopeful for our futures and the futures of our families. But, it also makes me kind of sad. Now, it may sound kind of funny but, we have to stop doing the stupid stuff that we have been doing for the past however-many years. We have to buckle down, buck up and be responsible. I have friends making families, friends that are starting new jobs, friends that are getting promotions, and friends publishing friggin’ books.

I think this is the time they are talking about in that Toys-R-Us jingle “I don’t wanna grow up”. I think I’ve grown up, even though I’ve still got a lot of growing up to do.